4 Reasons We Don’t Reach Our Goals


Why don’t we reach our goals? 

In my experience, the number one reason we don’t reach our goals is that we don’t Take Action.  We have a burning desire to lose weight, feel better, build a business, etc. but never put the rubber to the road.  Why is that?  Why do we seem to set ourselves up for failure?  I’ve found there are typically 4 big hurdles in our way.  

These are the Top 4 Reasons We Don’t Take Action:

1) Comfort

We construct our lives to be comfortable.  We purposefully don’t want to experience discomfort and spend a lot of time, money, and energy on the comfortable things in life. However, when we are trying to grow, change, or reach for a goal, comfort is the enemy.  We can’t remain comfortable and achieve something new – something outside our comfort zone!  So, “pain” is an essential component to growth and striving for a new goal.  Pain is a powerful motivator to start.  “I’m sick of being this lazy.”  “I can’t stand my job/salary.”  “I’m tired of being out of shape.”  These are pain-induced motivators.  

After the initial pain motivator however, is a more powerful motivator.  Progress.  Progress is the ultimate motivator.  When you are seeing results – even small results – the motivation to keep going is strong!  Progress is the powerful, long term motivator.  When you can see that the actions you’re making are moving you in the right direction you will keep taking action. 

So if you have a goal and need to take action, you need some sort of pain.  Put yourself in an uncomfortable situation.  Do something that scares you.  The hardest part is taking the first steps!  That progress will propel you forward! 

2) Distractions

Seems obvious, right?  If you don’t know by now, your phone is a distraction. (You’re probably reading this on your phone right now, distracted from something else you could be doing.)  Not only is our phone a distraction, almost everything else distracts us from the top priorities in our lives.  Binge watching a season.  Doing “busy” work.  Too many work commitments. The list is never ending.  At some point, we’ve decided that trying to do as much as possible and consume as much as possible is healthy, and socially acceptable.  To really achieve goals of any significance, we must slow down.  Stop consuming so much.  Quit saying “Yes” to everything and start saying “NO.”   Replace the quantity of what you’re doing with quality tasks.  

The key to removing all this noise from your life is having a plan.  Every day, every week, must have a plan.  If you’re free-styling it day by day, you are setting yourself up for failure.  There isn’t a single successful person that wakes up and just “wings it”.  You must have a plan for each day and each week.  It just has to be done! 

3) Excuses

We’re all guilty here too.  With so many priorities and many of them conflicting, we come up with excuses why we have to put one priority in front of the other.  Do you need examples?  Ok.   “I travel for work, so I don’t have time to work out.”  “I’m a parent, and eating healthy is hard.”  “My schedule is too busy to work on personal growth.”  “I work at McDonald’s so I can’t eat healthy.”  Alright, I’ll stop there.  Excuses are everywhere at all times!  And sadly, these excuses beat us up.  We feel so conflicted and torn internally that we are wore out; defeated.   

How do we get out of that rut and break the madness?  Accountability.  Someone that we trust to hold us accountable.  A mentor, coach, co-worker, etc.  Close family members can be helpful as well, but not always.  Choosing the right people to hold you accountable is needed to make the whole thing work.  If you go out and party with your best friends, they probably shouldn’t be your accountability partner to going to the gym.  Make sense?  Find the right people and hold each other accountable!

4)  Confusion and Uncertainty

These two will lead to not taking action also.  If you have so many ideas and distractions in your head that you can’t formulate a plan, you need to get the ideas out on paper and sort it out.  Being confused like this is just stirring the pot of soup and never pouring it out to eat.  You’ve got to get those ideas out of your head to make them meaningful!  

Similarly, if you have uncertainty or questions swirling in your brain, you’ll never take the action you need to succeed.   Doing some research and finding successful people to emulate can be very helpful.  Find people who have achieved the things you want to achieve, and copy them.  I’m not talking about “internet people” and articles written by famous people.  Find actual humans that you can meet with and find out what they’ve done to make them successful.  Want to be a good parent?  Find some good parents.  Want to lose weight?  Go to the gym and find someone who’s done it.  Want to build a business?  Find someone in the industry and introduce yourself.  

If you feel stuck and have been unable to take action on your goals, these suggestions might feel overwhelming.  Where do I start?  How can I get it all done?  How can I make so many changes?  It’s true, there is a lot that needs to be done.  If you need help with the first step, do this first:  Write down all your ideas.  Then reach out for help.  That’s it, take those 2 steps and you will be on your way!  

Gratitude & Grit | The History



By now you’ve seen our Core Values are Gratitude & Grit, and hopefully you’ve taken a look at what that means us us.  If not, you can read about it HERE.  What makes these values so special to us is the way they came about and the story behind it.  

The hashtag #gratitudeandgrit came from a random Facebook post, on a random Thursday in June after an open-gym session.  We immediately knew the slogan rang true for the members of KCI.  But it took a few months to realize that Gratitude and Grit were the perfect Core Values for us.  

A little background on the post:

Holly is a 2.5 year CrossFit veteran.  She’s one of the most dedicated people when it comes to attending class.  She sacrifices more than many people know to get to the gym regularly.  Yet she has her own struggles.  (You’ll read those soon)  And she has a great perspective on life.  

There’s a member at KCI who was diagnosed with cancer and started treatments in February of 2017.  Other than the days immediately following her treatments, she rarely missed a workout.  She came in to her normal class times and modified the exercises she couldn’t do, or shouldn’t do.  She never complained.  She was always encouraging to others.  She always worked as hard as she could. To simply call it inspiring would be a grievous understatement.  It was awe-inspiring and near miraculous to see her in the gym from February – September.  

Here’s Holly’s post from that Thursday in June.  It’s short, raw, and laced with emotion:

Reality check: showed up at the gym this morning, a little whiny, feeling tired, having cramps (tmi? sorry), gonna workout because I have to, not because I want to but not very motivated.

Decide to make up a partner WOD I missed yesterday and at the last moment, another lady comes in so I actually have a partner. My partner is fighting stage 4 breast cancer, still a CrossFit badass, lost a freaking fingernail during the workout (side effect of chemo), apologized to me (um, really?), threw on a pair of gloves to keep the blood under control, and KEPT GOING, LIKE A BEAST.

Suddenly I was embarrassed that I whined about my cramps and I was ashamed for feeling tired today. She’s an amazing athlete, has a stellar attitude, and is most definitely kicking cancer’s ass.      #GratitudeandGrit

Knowing the hearts of both of these women, that hashtag rang out like a shotgun in my head.  It clicked, it just made sense.  Gratitude and Grit.  It’s so simple.  Yet, so hard.  It’s what we are striving for, and it’s how we are living right now.  These values are lived out and cultivated in the smallest moments in life.  The small, seemingly insignificant moments can be the most powerful when building character.  KCI CrossFit is a place to live out and cultivate Gratitude & Grit! 

It is our wish that every member of KCI CrossFit lives with these values close to their heart.  And it is our mission to develop and cultivate Gratitude and Grit within all of our members.

If you’re on a fitness journey, we’re here to help!


Gratitude & Grit – Our Core Values

KCI CrossFit was built to bring people together and provide a framework for them to create the happiest and healthiest version of themselves.  We collectively agree that we are striving to be the best version of ourselves and that we are committed to that pursuit today, next year, in 10 years and in 60 years.  We welcome newcomers into our community and treat them like family.   As a community of like-minded individuals, it became apparent that a common set of values and norms were needed.  A compass to help guide us.  A road-map to follow.


Gratitude & Grit Core Values

Let’s use an analogy to understand why the Core Values are important and how they affect our overall health and fitness “journey” to creating the happiest and healthiest versions of ourselves.  

To create the healthiest and happiest versions of ourselves we need a vehicle to take us on the “journey,” and we need a road to drive on.  

Our mentality of Gratitude & Grit is the vehicle.  And our habits/actions are the roadway.  Habits with our lifestyle, work, sleep, nutrition, and exercise are the major components that make up the roadway.  KCI CrossFit strives to provide the roadway, the path we can take to lead a healthy and happy life.  What we are also trying to provide is a tune-up, check-up, and upgrade to the vehicles we are driving.  A refining of our mindset; and an owner’s manual on how to drive the car.  

Gratitude & Happiness

Happiness isn’t a destination. It’s not around the corner or on the other side of a difficult situation.  That’s a hard truth we’ve had to realize.  We must chose to be happy, wherever we are because the journey never ends.  And this is the essence of gratitude.  Whether we’re talking about the “fitness journey” of losing weight or getting in shape, or the journey of life.  We won’t find lasting happiness at an arbitrary “end” destination.  

If I lose 20 pounds, I’ll be happy.  When I have 6-pack abs, I’ll be happy.  If I make $100k a year, I’ll be happy.  If I have 2 kids, I’ll be happy.  If I can buy a fancy car, I’ll be happy.  If I can retire and move to the beach, then I’ll be happy.  

These cultural norms are unfortunately not grounded in truth.  While achieving those goals may bring momentary excitement or happiness, it will be short lived.  Very soon, we will realign our goals and be striving towards the next “thing” without lasting happiness.  Always chasing a moving target!  

Conversely, cultivating gratitude yields happiness today and nurtures our capacity for happiness in the future.  Recognizing what’s already in our life that we can be grateful for.  Realizing the abundance that we already have and being thankful for it.  We are grateful for our spouses.  Our jobs.  Our safety.  Our freedom.  Our health.  And on!

Practicing Gratitude

Our attitudes are magnets.  Whatever we put out, we will attract.  Whatever we are looking for, we will find.  If we look for positivity, we will see it all around.  And if we see more positive in our lives, we will be generally happier.  And thus helping us achieve our primary goal:  creating the happiest and healthiest version of ourselves.  This is the core importance of gratitude in our lives.

What does Gratitude look like?  What are some of the actions of this mentality?  Well, here’s a few off the top of my head:

Gratitude means smiling.  Looking people in the eyes.  Active Listening.  High fives.  Being on time.  Using manners..  Encouraging words.  Lending a hand.  Working hard.  Never quitting.  Making sacrifices.  Saying “Thank You”.  Volunteering.  Just to name a few!

So, all that to say, gratitude is immensely important in our lives, and it’s importance translates to working out, our fitness goals, and overall health.  Gratitude is a mindset, and it’s also an action.  We live out our gratitude mindset through our daily actions.

Now, Grit.  Like Gratitude, Grit is a mindset that must be developed, and it’s also an action.  Developing grit doesn’t happen by chance.  It happens by doing; by taking action.  

What is Grit?

Grit is “getting knocked off the horse and getting back up.”  Grit is the willingness to try new things.  Grit is living outside your comfort zone.  Grit is building discipline.  Grit is accepting that failure is part of the process.  Grit is never quitting.  Grit is being resourceful.  Grit is making hard decisions.  Grit is making sacrifices.  Having grit means living with integrity.  Living with grit means having persistence when things get hard.  Having grit also means we don’t make excuses.  We could go on!

Grit in the gym means all of those things!  Results don’t just happen, and there aren’t shortcuts.  Hard work, persistence, integrity, and failure are all necessary parts of the process – whether you want to lose weight, gain muscle, or build confidence.  You see, to change our bodies we must push outside of our comfort zone mentally and physically.  We must make sacrifices.  We must find a way when the way forward is unclear!  Developing and practicing grit is at the core!

Cultivating Gratitude & Grit  @ KCI

KCI CrossFit is a place to cultivate grit.  We require hard work and persistence.  We are putting daily disciplines into practice.  We are parents, business owners, employees and we are making sacrifices to achieve goals in all areas of our life.  KCI CrossFit is a training ground to apply grit into all other areas of our lives.  Working out is hard.  CrossFit is hard.  We learn the basics, practice them and become better!  And therefore, cultivating grit helps us become the healthiest and happiest version of ourselves.  

Bringing Gratitude and Grit together is our recipe for success.  As a fitness community, we rally around a common goal and come together.  We encourage and challenge each other.  We have high expectations and hold each other accountable.  We celebrate successes and stick together when things get hard.  We are a family!